PLAY NICE IN BLOGLAND OR ELSE:ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A WOMAN

Okay, Let's get something straight. I don't like Bullies. AT ALL. I also don't like men who pretend that Bullies are Harmless. Or that women are just overracting or being "Oversensitive". And gee let's take a look at 1600 Pennsylvania Ave. and see how it is to have Bullies in postion of Power- working swell isn't it ??? And this isn't a whine- this an out and out Rant, and if you don't want to hear it, fine. But if you know a woman blogger, you might want to read, because us gals have to put up with alot of shit in Blogatopia, that you fellas don't know even begin to know about.

So gee, what is the redhead so steamed about ? What the hell is her problem? ( And to the wonderful folk that sent me Thanksgiving Messeges- I really appreciated all your nice messeges, so this Post definently is NOT for you.)

Here is what is pissing me off. I went to a new blog this week, a Liberal Blog and they were promoting a new idea- another blog alliance project. I am a part of three of these already- because I do think that reading and dialoguing with as many people as possible is a Healthy Democracy. A Democracy I still believe in,and hope that we Bloggers can help save at this point.

So I dropped in to the new blog, and it seems that it was just starting a dialogue about the project. And they want to call themselves a "Carnival". So I VERY nicely pointed out that maybe another name should be examined, because well, frankly Carnival brings to mind "Carney Folk" and also all the Repug. Insults that come with it. I suggested it nicely, politely. I also suggested the change or review because I was thinking it might save some poor soul some headaches. I wasn't trying to be critical.....or semantically obsessed.

Wow, you would have thought I was some kind of Wonder Bitch. The moderators and the One Visitor were pretty rude. I have not had ANYONE on ANY blog say " Fuck that shit" to my face on a blog. And because I made a suggestion it was suggested I had a "Victim" mentality, and that I was a ( and you won't believe this) a " WHIMP".

( Anyone who has read my blog for ten minutes knows that I am pretty far from Whimpland....)

Now this would not bother me, except that I have had to put up with ALOT of interesting" Behavior" on my Comments Section- I have been called Every Name in the book, and often spelled pretty creatively. ( I think Repug Thugs need dictionaries). I even put up with the usual little "Turdletts" I called them. ( And in case you haven't noticed there are not many women bloggers out there, anyone wonder why???)

( Example of Turdlett: And as a woman voicing concerns about Women and Children in the Superdome I was called an "Over-Emotional -FeministPsychoLesbian", that was one of the most amusing-confused little comments that was left for me??!! It was almost laughable, except it was Rude.Period. So it was swept off. )

And During Katrina I had one Particular Visitor I named Mr.Rape- because he was leaving me messeges at least 4-6 times day, on My Blog and off line Telling why the Women in NOLA and the Superdome Deserved to be raped. ( yes, deserved) I kept it regularly swept and I ALWAYS Delete messeges that are offensive to me and my loyal two readers. Because I think that makes it a more positive experience for all involved. And some of you may have noticed that if you got offensive comments left on the comment site of your own Blogs, yes, I would be one of the first to come forward and put a stop to it. And yes, after three weeks of MrRape - I took a break. ( I also took a break because I had a zillion other things go wrong at the same time- so it was just one more thorn in the bush that was cushioning a rather bad fall). And When I came back to Blogland I was more committed than ever to not be Bullied again. That Democracy mattered.

And yes, I write edgy posts at times, and I bring up controversial issues, and sometimes painful ones. I do it because I care about this country. I also don't like people being mistreated, and I think we as Bloggers are covering issues that the MSM has neglected. I think that FINALLY times are changing, but I also think that we as Bloggers have to defend and protect what we do. ( BTW Gonzales has been trying to craft a law that would make our blogging lives HELL...more on that later). I also treat my Blog as a coffee shop , where you and others can come by and learn something new, or discuss something bothersome, or hell even laugh. And I try to be hospitable to my visitors. I also do sometimes treat my blog like an Undeground paper- I write about things the MSM is Never going to cover, ie. 12,000 still MISSING And or Dead in NOLA. But I mostly want my Blog to be a place Where Democracy Thrives.

Oh, and yes, I did some research on Mr.Rape, he was a Federal Employee. ( I said I was a research specialist- I wasn't joking).
And he also had a little Porn problem, which I pointed out in my comments section as politely as possible, that he get some help.He soon departed....but it took weeks.

And just to set the record straight other women get the same sort of crap, ask the Cranky Ol Broad, she will tell you tales also. ( And most of us gals email offline about this- but gee maybe it is time that you fellas know what we have to put up with. And to be honest it is names and "Activities" that you would not wanted said to your girlfriend,wife or sister....)

Oh, and just to set the record straight I am not some wilting Lilly , I am tougher than most, and a nurse and a research specialist I have done Battle with some pretty large Evil Entities. I just don't feel like Battling Fellow Bloggers, especially ones that call Themselves Liberal. And IF ANYONE says "Fuck That Shit" about what I Write- hey, guess what I might have Something to say about It. But I can Promise you- it won't be Silence or "Making Nice".

( yes, I really was told to "Make Nice" on the formentioned Blog....A phrase that makes me laugh, because as a parent, any of us will tell you that if you say that phrase, even to a 5 yr old the results will be laughable and usually require bandaids. )

So To the Blogatopia Gods and Goddesses, I am praying that ALL of us can be a little more Respectful to each other, a little more caring, especially of our Blogging Sisters.
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FATCAT POLITICS listed some great blogger sisters on his blog on November 27th , 2005