So last weekend I did something silly.
I KNOW I should be oh-so-embarrassed.
I went to Craigslist and looked up MEN for this area.
It turned out to be an unexpected moment to giggle and outright laugh.
My son has joked that I should "get OUT THERE", which sounds almost exciting, even somewhat interesting- like a Travel Channel Show I might TIVO...."OUT THERE& How to get there & WHO to meet There".
But then over on Craig Crawford's site I read how Sheila - Sensible Sheila met a man
on Craiglist.( I think she hired a plumber first, and that went well so voila. I bet I have this story messed up- but you get the general romantic novel drift here) I was more than intrigued and even slightly inspired.
So I hooked up to the List in my area.(for some reason it felt forbidden, in a kind of good way...and I am not sure why.)
So there it was a List of Men in my area.
Some wanted Women - proportionate, some wanted SOME areas to be BIGGER than others, no one wanted Motherly women raising teenagers or children ( that's nice) and 40 apparently is NOT the new 30 ( yup another crappy myth shot to hell- good).
NOT ONE posting was looking for a Woman of Substance...or that had Strong Values, or a Good Heart, or a Sound Mind. Nope, ladies it all comes down to tits and legs...and some ass.
And some arrogant little men even posted that they Wanted Women with a Job, and Good Income. ( I guess it was all about wanting "independent" women-joke-gag-spit)
There were men seeking Polka Dancers ( " Must have strong legs, like accordian practice and MUST Enjoy Polka Dancing THREE nights a week). Another one that intrigued me " Moving to Ohio in August , would like to meet good woman to help resettle. Signed , married in New Jersey).
Yup, that was my WTF moment????
Are Men really This Shallow, or only in Ohio?
I am not really looking I guess...after all.
But What a Reality Check....
Is it wrong to think that men still like women of Substance?
Whatever happened to curling up Sunday Mornings with newspapers and coffee and newpspapers or blogs ? ( Planning The Date on the Phone)
Whatever happened to Long Walks in the Rain? ( Date#1)
Whatever happened to meeting at a gallery and not talking for 2 hours, and letting the tension build? ( Date #2)
Whatever happened to Dinner in small Italian Resturante ? (date #3)
Whatever happened to Dancing Real Slow in the Moonlight ?( date #4)
yeah, I know it is 2006, I am living in the wrong damn age. Sigh.
16 comments:
Why are YOU embarassed? It's the men who write those wish lists that should be embarassed. But just for the sake of fairness, did you check out any of the ladies "requirements"? Were they just as shallow?
And no, it's not just Ohio. A friend in No.Calif told me the BEST one she recently saw was "must like fishing: you catch, clean, bring home & cook. my friends & I will do the eating, beer drinking & poker playing." What a prize that guy must be, huh?
and (sigh) "letting the tension build" ... oh, absolutely, and that applies to ANY age .. guys, take a cue from enigma's list & make yourselves irresistable! D.K.
Oh, dear.
I love craigslist, but even there Looking For Love these days is a crapshoot at best. Myself being a big old lesbo, my craigslist experience is one-stop shopping. You should look at the page to see what women looking for men are saying...DK is right.
And now you got me curious! The last time I did craigslist, it took me about a month or so to meet someone I dated for about a month or so, and we ended up being internet friends more than hanging out. The way these things should work, if everybody's an adult. And it was kind of nice to have a little fling without it turning into Major Drama! I'm glad you're looking at it with a grain of salt, and a sense of humor...
And thanks for a little dish for a change! If it's any consolation, I found 99% of the women4women so hung up about what they DIDN'T want to be with they cut off 99% of their chance of finding somebody compatible. I don't even want to tell you what my friend found at m4m...suffice it to say he has to wade through some megatwisted nonsense. He figures 99% of what's there would be easier to come across as Club Z (EEEeeewwwwww!).
Honey, surf craigslist -- you know the old saying. At least online you don't have to actually kiss the toad! Just don't let it get you down.
And now I'm off to see what's up on w4w in Seattle; I'll let you know if they're still so uptight.
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The men sound fairly pathetic...don't be taken in...ha ha...as if you would!
Well, hell I thought they have been preaching to us that "40 IS the new 30"? Another lie..farkers..
Its hard to make a connection in this world, on any level..people are so jaded or self=absorbed..I heart you E4E for even looking at the list.
There must be someone out there somewhere.
It's wise to look around once in awhile just ot see what's out there. Then you can go back to having a happy satisfying life under your own steam.
I would hate to be in the dating scene these days. I wasn't crazy about it in "those" days. Mr Pop will be the last man in my life. I know that if something should happen to him there is no other man who could replace him in any way. Wouldn't even bother to look.
I think mary is correct, once you look and see what's out there you probably feel fortunate that they aren't in your life. Imagine getting hooked up with one of those jerks. Ahhhh, aren't you glad you aren't?
well well...so Here it is Saturday morn..and sure enough the Blogger Women come through with their sage advice and wisdom..and as always made me really laugh...Thank you.
POP: YUp..I am so glad that I am where I am and got what I got...and yeah, it was kind of a relief. and yes we all KNOW that mrPOP is indeed lucky to have you as his lady...you both are lucky..you two have something wonderful
PEACECHICK: yup...gotta look,or atleast take a peak....and then go back to my blog,and a good book and hang out with my son on Friday night- that is indeed a perfect night.
Granny: Thanks , but I think I kinda have realized that I am happy just the way I am..and if something stumbles my way that is a different story.
DUSTY: wow..everything you said is dead on. wow...amen ..amen.
SUMO: yup..as you said..and yup I won't be taken in ( hmm or is it out?)
MEL: you always are the voice of reason...and you do make me laugh..and gee let me know how the Craig's listing up there goes- I know HOW interesting it can be there ( I do miss Seattle)
DK: yup..was afraid it wasn't and isn't just Ohio...hmm, maybe I need to go abroad ? hehe...It actually was really entertaining...I had a good laugh..so that made it all okay...
Sadly, all men are pigs. It's in our jeans.
hfs ... craig's list ... my son bought a couch for his apartment off that ... I've not looked at it as of today ... so they sell men ... or men seek women there ... sounds like there are some lameass mofos there ... frickin' funny on one level ... enigma, I can surely tell ya this ... if rory was single he'd be up for a long walk in the rain witcha if you were up for it with him ... 'course it'd be a long frickin' walk to Ohio as well even if you wuz up ferit ... but then rory ain't single ... and you might not be inta rory even if he were ... so don't take rory as presumptious for say "if" and "would" ... an' missus rory don't you be pissed, 'cause seems to me enigma is the kinda woman that you respect and wouldn't mind takinm' a long walkin the rain wit' neither ... rory you crazy mofo ... better sign off while the signin' is good ... enigma ... you are the best
LOL. I guess I'll scratch Craig's list off as a potential meeting place..... Next you know they'll be listing them at ebay.
Whatever happened to - Long Walks in the Rain? ( Date#1)
- meeting at a gallery and not talking for 2 hours, and letting the tension build? ( Date #2)
- dinner in small Italian Resturante ? (date #3)
- dancing Real Slow in the Moonlight ?( date #4)
Oh my, who IS this person?! Would it were that I was single and a generation younger, I'd be dying to meet the person who wrote this! (sly grin)
Dada: sly grin back at ya' and (((( )))) to you and that lucky Missus...
Libby: whelp, you might have better luck buying broken china on the Ol'Ebay...
Mr.Shock: Your Missus is SOOooooOOOOO lucky...and yeah, we know that she and I would get along great too...and yeah, you got any brothers??( winkwinknodnod...)and yeah the ol'enigma is a strange Bird- and we know it ain't all Paradise , but I am okay..and no worries I won't be joining the Polka Brigade....( and I can go to the galleries and be so friggin happy...)You are pretty friggin' cool yourself...
ABI: so hmm all men are pigs- well then where are the Curly Tails....hmm that sounds rude..oh,well
craigslist...hmmmmmm....i get the impression that everything on craigslist is about sex...see the story about "sensible sheila" and the plumber...i'm surprised rory's son did not get propositioned or come away with a lover as well as a couch...i find the ads from women are generally of more substance than the ads from men...except for "casual encounters", which is nothing but sick jokers, weirdos and out-and-out perverts of both genders and good for nothing but a laugh at the shallowness of such people...i'm not embarassed to admit that i surf the personals at craigslist and other sites, even when i get caught doing it at work, but i am embarassed to admit that i haven't screwed up the courage yet to answer an ad or place one of my own...i'm finding that it's taking me a long time to get back OUT THERE, especially since i wasn't ever into the dating scene to begin with in my youth...that's why i got married the first time, so i wouldn't have to date any more...
Maine Friend: hmm,you are so funny- half of what you wrote I thought...Now I have to admit that the Ohio Men don't talk sex on Craigslist...( I don't know about the women)...I think I read the ads now with more of a morbid amusement....hmm, okay more of voyeur delight? aren't I bad...and be a cold day in hell before I would pursue more a couch purchase....
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