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A few weeks back I was at Starbucks, and a Couple, a Husband and Wife got into a squabble. The Wife was very dramatic, with many sideglances at the Audience as she got her barbs in. The Husband was quiet, dignified and trying to quietly settle her. There was NO Settling of the Woman, she was enjoying her moment, and you could tell she thought the Limelight was favorable. It wasn't. People were retreating for the Door, Restrooms,Condiment Counter, Anywhere away from The Discussion. As I stood still awaiting my coffee, the man next to me even joked, " What the hell were they even fighting about?" I had to admit, at a certain point I think my hearing was just turned off, I could not even remember What they were saying.
I was raised by Southern Women, I was taught that Real Women do not nitpick Men in Public. I was taught that to be Shrill was undignified. I was taught that Women should have arguments at Home, not in public. I was taught that if you want people to really Listen, you should talk softly. I was taught that if you work with Men and Talk with Men, Listen Closely and Talk softly. That if you yell, People don't listen to What you have to say.I was also taught that if you want Respect, you have to give it. That is you only tout Your Fighting Skills, you are viewed as an Attack Dog, not as a Woman. And for the most part I learned that everything they said is true, atleast I know that it was true working as a Environmental Health Advocate in the Northwest in many meetings with men. I learned it is more important to Talk Softly With People , than to yell at all. It is true that I have never worked in DC, but I think for the most part what my Aunties taught me was true.
I watched the Debate last night and felt like I was back at Starbucks watching the Woman needle her Husband for the love of the Limelight. It was disrespectful and disturbing. I did not watch and think "what an amazing woman", I watched with embarrassment and sadness. This Debate was held in South Carolina, and on the Anniversay of MLK's Birthday. In her attack she came off as Imperious and arrogant.And yet the Media continues to tell me as a Woman that I have to support her, I have even heard it in the Blogatopia Circles, I even know my numbers are down because as I a woman I do not support her tactics. But as a woman I can not support her, or her methods. She is attacking a good man, because she knows that his messege of Hope has reached millions. His Message of Wanting to Unite is valuable and needed, she comes off as petty, jealous and narrow minded. He also has a Messege of Change. Because for Some People, Many of us, the Clinton Years were NOT the Wonder Years, they were just years that were in between the Bush Years. I was still working two jobs trying to raise a son, it was Nothing Special for me or my neighbors, so please let's put that Illusion to bed.
As a Woman I also say to the Media, Shame on you for attempting to define WHO we as woman vote for or should support. Shame on you for distracting away from the Real Issues, of People that are suffering in this Country into a petty scuffle on the back porch of the Whitehouse, and keeping the Limelight off the Blundering Mess of Bushco. We have MORE to face than is being talked about, from 6000 VET Suicides to 3 Million about to lost their homes in March to 37 Million going to bed Hungry. I want to hear real discussions and problem solving about HOW to fix this Mess all of us are looking at daily, from Homeless Wounded Vets on my Corner, to the old women buying catfood for dinner to the mittenless cold children with empty stomachs walking to dilapitated schools in my neighborhood past rows of Empty Abandoned Houses. I want Reality....and Humanity...and if I want to hear petty Bickering and needless nitpicking , I can still go to Starbucks.
**{ Click the Title: Fleetwood Mac and "The Chain", because it is time to break the Chains of the Past...it is Time for Change}**
