Saturday, November 26, 2005

PLAY NICE IN BLOGLAND OR ELSE:ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A WOMAN

Okay, Let's get something straight. I don't like Bullies. AT ALL. I also don't like men who pretend that Bullies are Harmless. Or that women are just overracting or being "Oversensitive". And gee let's take a look at 1600 Pennsylvania Ave. and see how it is to have Bullies in postion of Power- working swell isn't it ??? And this isn't a whine- this an out and out Rant, and if you don't want to hear it, fine. But if you know a woman blogger, you might want to read, because us gals have to put up with alot of shit in Blogatopia, that you fellas don't know even begin to know about.

So gee, what is the redhead so steamed about ? What the hell is her problem? ( And to the wonderful folk that sent me Thanksgiving Messeges- I really appreciated all your nice messeges, so this Post definently is NOT for you.)

Here is what is pissing me off. I went to a new blog this week, a Liberal Blog and they were promoting a new idea- another blog alliance project. I am a part of three of these already- because I do think that reading and dialoguing with as many people as possible is a Healthy Democracy. A Democracy I still believe in,and hope that we Bloggers can help save at this point.

So I dropped in to the new blog, and it seems that it was just starting a dialogue about the project. And they want to call themselves a "Carnival". So I VERY nicely pointed out that maybe another name should be examined, because well, frankly Carnival brings to mind "Carney Folk" and also all the Repug. Insults that come with it. I suggested it nicely, politely. I also suggested the change or review because I was thinking it might save some poor soul some headaches. I wasn't trying to be critical.....or semantically obsessed.

Wow, you would have thought I was some kind of Wonder Bitch. The moderators and the One Visitor were pretty rude. I have not had ANYONE on ANY blog say " Fuck that shit" to my face on a blog. And because I made a suggestion it was suggested I had a "Victim" mentality, and that I was a ( and you won't believe this) a " WHIMP".

( Anyone who has read my blog for ten minutes knows that I am pretty far from Whimpland....)

Now this would not bother me, except that I have had to put up with ALOT of interesting" Behavior" on my Comments Section- I have been called Every Name in the book, and often spelled pretty creatively. ( I think Repug Thugs need dictionaries). I even put up with the usual little "Turdletts" I called them. ( And in case you haven't noticed there are not many women bloggers out there, anyone wonder why???)

( Example of Turdlett: And as a woman voicing concerns about Women and Children in the Superdome I was called an "Over-Emotional -FeministPsychoLesbian", that was one of the most amusing-confused little comments that was left for me??!! It was almost laughable, except it was Rude.Period. So it was swept off. )

And During Katrina I had one Particular Visitor I named Mr.Rape- because he was leaving me messeges at least 4-6 times day, on My Blog and off line Telling why the Women in NOLA and the Superdome Deserved to be raped. ( yes, deserved) I kept it regularly swept and I ALWAYS Delete messeges that are offensive to me and my loyal two readers. Because I think that makes it a more positive experience for all involved. And some of you may have noticed that if you got offensive comments left on the comment site of your own Blogs, yes, I would be one of the first to come forward and put a stop to it. And yes, after three weeks of MrRape - I took a break. ( I also took a break because I had a zillion other things go wrong at the same time- so it was just one more thorn in the bush that was cushioning a rather bad fall). And When I came back to Blogland I was more committed than ever to not be Bullied again. That Democracy mattered.

And yes, I write edgy posts at times, and I bring up controversial issues, and sometimes painful ones. I do it because I care about this country. I also don't like people being mistreated, and I think we as Bloggers are covering issues that the MSM has neglected. I think that FINALLY times are changing, but I also think that we as Bloggers have to defend and protect what we do. ( BTW Gonzales has been trying to craft a law that would make our blogging lives HELL...more on that later). I also treat my Blog as a coffee shop , where you and others can come by and learn something new, or discuss something bothersome, or hell even laugh. And I try to be hospitable to my visitors. I also do sometimes treat my blog like an Undeground paper- I write about things the MSM is Never going to cover, ie. 12,000 still MISSING And or Dead in NOLA. But I mostly want my Blog to be a place Where Democracy Thrives.

Oh, and yes, I did some research on Mr.Rape, he was a Federal Employee. ( I said I was a research specialist- I wasn't joking).
And he also had a little Porn problem, which I pointed out in my comments section as politely as possible, that he get some help.He soon departed....but it took weeks.

And just to set the record straight other women get the same sort of crap, ask the Cranky Ol Broad, she will tell you tales also. ( And most of us gals email offline about this- but gee maybe it is time that you fellas know what we have to put up with. And to be honest it is names and "Activities" that you would not wanted said to your girlfriend,wife or sister....)

Oh, and just to set the record straight I am not some wilting Lilly , I am tougher than most, and a nurse and a research specialist I have done Battle with some pretty large Evil Entities. I just don't feel like Battling Fellow Bloggers, especially ones that call Themselves Liberal. And IF ANYONE says "Fuck That Shit" about what I Write- hey, guess what I might have Something to say about It. But I can Promise you- it won't be Silence or "Making Nice".

( yes, I really was told to "Make Nice" on the formentioned Blog....A phrase that makes me laugh, because as a parent, any of us will tell you that if you say that phrase, even to a 5 yr old the results will be laughable and usually require bandaids. )

So To the Blogatopia Gods and Goddesses, I am praying that ALL of us can be a little more Respectful to each other, a little more caring, especially of our Blogging Sisters.
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FATCAT POLITICS listed some great blogger sisters on his blog on November 27th , 2005

13 comments:

enigma4ever said...

Okay I have recieved more off-line mail about this from the "moderators"....
and apparently I am a told that "Fuckfests " are allowed and a good time in Blogatopia- WHOA- didn't realize that....
( WTF???? I don't even know what that means???)
( and someone was embarrassed because the rude comment is alll Tidy now....)

And "deignan" is a word some one made up to feel smart -
but actually an Asian friend informed me that it means "mask" in Japanese....I hate it when people use words and don't bother to look up their Proper Meaning...now that is Rude...if you are going to Insult me - speak English...

enigma4ever said...

Oh- to the moderator who now came over to my blog to leave yet more Turdletts at 4am - guess what- YOU HAVE BEEN DELETED !!!- because you LIE and you were RUDE....so go back to your Carney Folk and "play Nice"

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Anonymous said...

Oh, and yes, I did some research on Mr.Rape, he was a Federal Employee. ( I said I was a research specialist- I wasn't joking).
And he also had a little Porn problem, which I pointed out in my comments section as politely as possible, that he get some help.


Wow. How did you figure it all out?

enigma4ever said...

He wrote ALOT of emails to me. and I traced the ISP number back- he worked for the "Federal Trade Commission" ( I learned from another blog about where to to go to trace the codes)....and he also got careless after the first 50 emails- he got Cocky....and I also learned that he had another email address and name and then I found that he had left a "shopping" trail on google....Basically I kept handing him the rope and the End was inevitable....and I waited until I Knew alot about him- and then I outed him- in the Comments section....and once he was properly shamed- after leaving the Post up for a week or so- the Rude Comments stopped...for good. ( well, atelast from MrRape)...

Justin said...

You should have outed him from his job too.

canuk said...

He sounds like a real peach!! Keep giving them hell. Crapheads like that need to be shown for what they truly represent, which is a bigotted view of everyone who happens to disagree with them.

BTW thanks for stopping by CanadianPerspective, and taking the time to leave a comment.

jurassicpork said...

Enigma:

I'm sorry I missed all that. If you've been going to my blog regularly, you'll note that I've caught on to the fact that I have a rather intense fan over at the DIA (Defense Intelligence Agency) and I'd tracked that IP address to every place it'd been at since 2003. It was the basis of one of my most heavily commented blogs. I called him/her out and offered them a chance to leave a comment, tell me more about them that I don't already know (which is much, much more than I'd let on).

To date, s/he's still playing shy.

As for toning things down:

This is your blog, your online diary of your thoughts and feelings. Here you get to play God and do whatever's within reason. If someone doesn't like that you say, oh well, tough shit. I get my share of trolls from time to time. One person recently said that I "spew(ed) venomous filth" on a daily basis, which, the more I thought about it, was one of the greatest compliments that anyone could ever give me. More recently, I was taken to task for my delusional, hateful ravings.

Oh well.

Like General Patton once said when asked by the press why he cursed so much at his troops, he said, "I give it to them loud and dirty, that way they'll remember it."

Which, of course, doesn't even begin to explain my own MO. I have lots of reasons for being the abrasive, vitriolic asshole that I am. Number One, I'm good at it.

Number Two, I'm tired of being a Goody Two Shoes to fit in, to look like a good American. if I do nothing to try to effect a solution to the problem, I'm part of the problem.

But mostly I'm tired of fitting in and getting my pockets stuffed with shit in payment. And I'm tired of playing by the rules that don't work, anymore.

And it all goes back to something that I didn't do when I was 11 years old, something that would've improved my whole life to this day instead of wracking me with guilt for not having done it. because often in life it's the things you don't do that affect you more than the things that you do do.

But that's a story for another day...

Anonymous said...

I wasn't aware that problems like that existed. I like to think that we bloggers are cut from a different cloth, and that's why we blog, in much the same way that engineering students are students of engineering regardless of whether they study it or not, they're always led back there.

And I'll say I agree with canuk and JP above. It's your show, and you get to run it the way you want to. If they don't like it, they can go somewhere else.

Nice blog, btw.

I don't always comment (I know I'm usually more long-winded than I intend to be), but I usually read.

enigma4ever said...

To all above who left supportive understanding comments- I am very grateful....Thank you much :)

meldonna said...

Keep on keeping on, e4e...to paraphrase Franken after he shares the 'hate mail for the day', it does say more about the idiot than it does about you.

Or as my old girlfriend used to say, keep smiling...so the bastards will wonder what you're up to.

love, from one old salty broad...

enigma4ever said...

I just think as women there is some real bad crap going on under this Regime- and it ALL started with the FAIR GAME... of Valerie...

and it is a mentality that is dangerous- it is like the Klan...and who knows 20 years from now we may indeed find out that it is the Klan...

Idiots are one thing- but when it gets malicious that is another matter...

Bu again thanks for the comments and support- appreciated muchly....

Stacy said...

The reality is that the internet is a big place and there a lot of nuts out there whom we would all do well to avoid if possible. I am a big believer in free, unhindered debate but when all someone does is insult and degrade, that is not informed debate- it is distracting and trollish and any blogger has the right to not tolerate that on his or her blog.

I tend to avoid blogs that have been taken over by conservative trolls or which are run by liberals who think acting like assholes equals free speech. But the great thing about the net is that there are so many of us there is no shortage of excellent, substantive blogs for great discussion while at the same time we can find our own smaller community within it to do our outreach, activism, pass on information and even provide some much-needed support at times.

Keep up the good work enigma- dont let the fools get you down. There's more of us than there are of them (even though it doesn't seem like it at times).